Overfunctioning is one of those traits people praise right up until they realize they’ve built half their comfort on your unpaid overcapacity. Then suddenly your exhaustion is a you problem.
I’m curious how you handled the men who gave you the unwanted shoulder massages, you know like W. did to Angela Merkel. Which is to say that if it could happen at that hierarchy of societial power, one can only imagine what’s really going in corporate boardrooms, corner offices and workstations of the rest of us.
Fortunately I didn't get much unwanted touching after I was in my 30s. But I handled sexual harassment and gender discrimination by naming it, going to HR where possible, and taking legal action if necessary. The challenge is that sexual harassment is often seen only in terms of obvious sexual abuse. I am also attuned to the gendered discrimination I talk about here - the demand that women take care of the emotional regulation of insecure men with power, for example. It is pervasive, but it is so much more than just unwanted touching.
Overfunctioning is one of those traits people praise right up until they realize they’ve built half their comfort on your unpaid overcapacity. Then suddenly your exhaustion is a you problem.
Exactly!!
I’m curious how you handled the men who gave you the unwanted shoulder massages, you know like W. did to Angela Merkel. Which is to say that if it could happen at that hierarchy of societial power, one can only imagine what’s really going in corporate boardrooms, corner offices and workstations of the rest of us.
Fortunately I didn't get much unwanted touching after I was in my 30s. But I handled sexual harassment and gender discrimination by naming it, going to HR where possible, and taking legal action if necessary. The challenge is that sexual harassment is often seen only in terms of obvious sexual abuse. I am also attuned to the gendered discrimination I talk about here - the demand that women take care of the emotional regulation of insecure men with power, for example. It is pervasive, but it is so much more than just unwanted touching.